SOMETIMES, IT'S NOT ABOUT WHAT YOU LET GO(INYOUR LIFE) BUT WHAT YOU KEEP!

So I havent blogged in awhile due to a disastrous incident with my computer but I am ever so grateful to have access to the internet from work so althought this piece is short and sweet, here goes another one of my wild thoughts......hope you enjoy it the SoulSMart way;-)

Lauryn Hill, one of my favorite singers of all time, has a line in one of her songs where she says something along the lines of "Life is not about what you throw away but what you keep" This particular line resounds to me today as I do a double take and reflect on all the people whom I've kept in my life over the years.

See, I recently went through a situation with a person whom I hold really dear to me and I've been faced with the option of having to eliminate this person from my thoughts, my life altogether....I cant really disclose the details but to make a long story short, his actions (or lack thereof) have recently caused me great pain.

SO even though it's hard to wrap your head around this without knowing the issue at hand, take it from me, it''s serious but not something I didnt think we werent strong enough to ultimately discuss, get over and move on and move forward from. If anything I felt like a healthy discussion and a little time to think through and ultimately work through the problem is what it would take to gain a resolution..... I know I sound like a rambling woman but the point I'm trying to make here is that too oftentimes, people who care about one another wind up (inadvertently) hurting each other and I wonder how folks get past the hurting stage and move forward, does that even make sense? Good, bad or indifferent, I guess we should all really consider who we choose to partner with and also develop some basic communication strategies, specifically for when unhealthey disagreements happen.....everyone's bound to go through some type of strife and/or disagreement, the true question is "how do you handle that when it happens?"

I think alot about that as I reflect on the people whom I have kept in my life over the years and those whom I've chosen not to contact again....I guess ultimately, it's important to respect a friendship and honor it enough to fight for it, albeit the costs may be great at first but what you stand to gain from a true friend is that much greater....hands down. I've learned that questioning events in your life is not good for the Soul and so therefore, I choose to wait, bid my time and let that big guy upstairs work this one out....the SoulSmart way.....because as I always say folks, what's good for the Soul is Smart......and on that note I'd also add that if you genuinely apreciate someone or even better yet, LOVE them, let them know ....cuz in life it's not about what you cop it's about what you KEEP......that's the Lauryn quote:-)

Sending you Hugs and Love,

Niurka