So, I went to see the movie BIG this weekend and lord knows it left a heck of an impression on me. If you don’t know the movie I’m referencing, then you probably shouldn’t be reading this blog today because trust me, you’d have to be a “Biggie” fan to even begin to understand the content I’m about to put forth…….so for all my people who genuinely loved BIG, this column’s for you today. Now for starters, loved the movie! For sure! I though it was a very insightful portrayal of a young man who rose to superstardom against all odds and did not even have an opportunity to enjoy it. Hence, I urge you to indulge with me for a bit while I discuss the highlights of the film that kept me thinking all weekend……Now, I’m sure many of us who followed this rapper may have had a completely different perception of who this young man was before the movie. What strikes me the most is the intensity of all that he had to deal with, particularly around women.
Big-Ups to Lil’Kim because as often as she’s been portrayed as this harlot, sex-crazed fiend, in the movie a very different side of her is portrayed…..she’s presented as this really nice
girl turned bad by her “manager” because sex sells…..hmmmmm…I wonder how much of that story is truth or fiction. See many of us actually liked Kim because we always understood her to be a “take no shit” kind of girl who was about making money 24/7. The downside though is that she always portrays herself as somewhat crazy and a hell of a lot promiscuous.….. I mean, is it just me or does anyone feel like it was a little confusing to see her portrayed as a victim or so damn innocent….wonder how much she had to do with the actual production of this flick because I’VE HEARD SOME PRETTY INTENSE “STORIES” ABOUT HER (lol). But for real, if this is the real KIM, then, thank you Voletta for letting us see that!
Now Faith on the other hand, was something to ponder on, I’m sitting in the movie theatre in awe because I didn’t realize that first off, her and BIG had only been married for about 3 months when she recorded “I remember”. I mean, lord knows, I’m sitting there like O.k., from the sound of that song, the average woman would’ve assumed she was talking about someone she had been with for years! I was laughing like , FAY, you’ve known this dude for a split second and you’re writing songs like he owed you an eternity, FOR WHAT! But on another note, if her love for BIG was as true as she made it out to be in the many interviews I’ve read about them (from her viewpoint, of course) then I guess there’s something to be said for “true love”. BUT, from what I understand….she divulges the fact that she did cheat on him during their short marriage with an NBA player in her recent book and that to me only confirms my disbelief in her “so called” love for him.
A wise woman knows that the kind of love that FAITH sung about is one that endures and withstands all, strengthening a relationship over time through love, compassion and endurance which eventually evolves into something meaningful and long-lasting. Her music reflects this understanding which is why I related to her back then and genuinely liked her music. The upshot to this though is that if she was jumping hoops because her man hadn’touched her in a while……I fear to say she’s got some issues (lol)!
I guess the most real part comes out with the depiction of his baby’s mother, who loved him from the start, for who he was, not what he became, albeit, she is the rpitome of "baby mama". Sucks that she continually got the shoddy shoulder for two really physically beautiful AND HYPER-SUCCESSFUL women. Awkward right? But I guess it really begs the question: What is it that attracts the average man? See, if a brother is just an average Joe, a sister has to be like some superstar in some kind of way to merit a consideration for marriage, at least in the black community. I could be totally wrong, but from what I see, black men will have a great time with a regular around the way “shortie” as they like to call them, but will seriously hesitate to take a solid sister seriously because she’s not excessively beautiful or successful, it’s all kind of fickle if you ask me. But then again, this is the world we live in, where black people put on airs all day long and pretend that the black bourgeoisie actually exists when in reality it’s all a farce. Why cant folks just simply be comfortable around each other and be ok with the fact that , GOD has made us all perfect being exactly who we are. (Yeah,right!)
I thought this excerpt was going to be about BIG but the reality is there’s not much I can say about the man that we don’t already know. He was fabulous in his own way and modeled for young people the idea that you can make it in music despite all the odds…I wonder though, would his life had been different if he would’ve just stuck with the one woman who did actually keep it real with him, rather than going for the glitter and sex appeal… I’m talking about Jane, who clearly looks like she held down the fort but was never rightly acknowledged, or am I simply going to deep with this?.... a good friend of mine says I have a tendency to do that (lol). It would seem to me that a brother would want to get with a sister who demonstrates true love and can still hold her own, I mean hey, jANE DIDNT EXACTLY HAVE IT ALL TOGETHER SO I CANT REALLY USE HER AS AN EXAMPLE, it’s not her fault she was never taught to demand things the same way the bourgeoisie woman knows how to do so well……like they say, every good man has a good woman behind him….just look at Barak!Maybe BIG should've exed all these girls altogether and found him a nice corporate chick (lol).
Hands down, I did shed a tear for my DUDE because at the end of the day…..were always going to love BIG POPPA, just wish he would’ve picked smart with his heart …..maybe it would’ve unburdened his soul you know…… Lord knows, the ambiguity and ambivalence that he underwent, damn near killed him! We all know that it’s better to go that route than to play yourself to please others…….because in the end you got to do what’s right for your soul you know! And as I always say…….what’s good for the Soul is Smart people, you know I had to throw that in there, (smile)!
Sending you Hugs and Love,
Niurka
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